Monday, May 18, 2009

ADVICE

ADVICE.

How is it possible to expect that mankind will take advice when they will not so much as take warning?—Swift.

Counsel and conversation is a good second education, that improves all the virtue and corrects all the1 vice of the former, and of nature itself.— Clarendon.

He that gives good advice builds with ona hand ; he that gives good counsel and example builds with the other; but he that givee good admonition and bad example builds with one hand and pulls down with the other.—Bacon.

He who can advise is sometimes superior to him who can give it.—Von Knebel.

Advice, as it always gives a temporary appearance of superiority, can never be very grateful, even when it is most necessary or most judicious ; but, for the same reason, every one is eager to instruct his neighbors.—Johnson.

The worst men often give the best advice.—Bailey.

If to do were as casv as to know what were good to do, chapels had been churches, and poor men's cottages, princes' palaces. It is a good divine that follows his own instructions : I can easier teach twenty what were good to be done, than be one of the twenty to follow mine own teaching.—Shakespeare.

Good counsels observed are chains to grace. -Fuller.

There is nothing of which men are more liberal than their good advice, be their stock of it ever so small; because it seems to carry in it an intimation of their own influence, importance, or worth.—Young.

Wait for the season when to cast good conn. sels upon subsiding passion.—Shakespeare.

Nothing is less sincere than our manner of asking and of giving advice. He who asks advice would seem to have a respectful deference for the opinion of his friend, whilst yet he onlj aims at getting his own approved of, and his friend responsible for his conduct. On the other hand, he who gives it repays the confidence supposed to be placed in him by a seemingly disinterested zeal, whilst he seldom means anything by the advice he gives but his own interest or reputation.—Rochefoucauld.

Let no man value at a little price a virtuous woman's counsel.—George Chapman.

No one was ever the better for advice: in general, what we called giving advice was properly taking an occasion to show our own wisdom at another's expense; and to receive advice was little better than tamely to afford another the occasion of raisin? himself a character from our defects.—Lord Shaftesbury.

Mishaps are mastered by advice discreet, and counsel mitigates the greatest smart.—Spenser.

When we feel a strong desire to thrust onr advice upon others, it is usually because we suspect their weakness ; but we ought rather to ' suspect our own.—Cotton.

Advice is offensive, not because it lays us open to unexpected regret, or convicts us of any fault which has escaped our notice, but because it shows us that we are known to others as well as ourselves; and the officious monitor is persecuted with hatred, not because his accusation i- false, but because he assumes the superiority which we arc not willing to gr?nt him, and has dared to detect what we desire to conceal.—Johnson.

How is it that even castaways can give such good advicE? Ninon de I'Enclos.

A man takes contradiction and advice much more easily than people think, only he will not bear it when violently given, even though it be well founded. Hearts are flowers; they remain open to the softly falling dew, but shut up in the violent downpo'ur of rain.—Richter.

Let no min presume to give advice to others that has not first given good counsel to himself.—Seneca.

There is as much difference between the counsel that a friend giveth and that a man givcth himself, as there is between the counsel of a friend and of a flatterer; for there is no such flatterer as a man's self, and there is no such remedy against flattery of a man's self as the liberty of a friend.—Bacon.

It has been well observed that few are better qualified to give others advice than those who have taken the least of it themselves.—Goldsmith.

It was the maxim, I think, of Alphonsus of Aragon, that dead counsellors are safest. The grave puts an end to flattery and artifice, and the information we receive from books is pure from interest, fear, and ambition. Dead counsellors are likewise most instructive, because they are heard with patience and with reverence.—Johnson.

Admonish your friends privately, but praise them openly.—Publius Syria.

The greatest trust between man and man is tie trust of giving counsel.—Bacon.

I lay very little stress either upon asking or giving advice. Generally speaking, they who ask advice know what they wioh to do, and remain firm to their intentionns. A man may allow himself to be enlightened on various points, even upon matters of expediency and duty; but, after all, he must determine his course of action for himself.— Wihelem von Humboldt.

Remember this : thev that will not be counselled cannot be helped. If you do not hear Reason, she will rap your knuckles.—Franklin.

There is nearly as much ability requisite to know how to profit by good advice as to know how to act fur one's self.—Rochefoucauld.

Do not give to thy friends the most agreeable counsels, but the most advantageous.—Tuckerman,

We ask advice, but we mean approbation.—Cotton.

No man is so foolish but he may give another good counsel sometimes, and no man so wise but he may easily err, if he takes no other counsel than his own. He that was taught only by himself had a fool for a master. -Ben Jonson.

Men give away nothing so liberally as their advice.—Rochefoucauld.

I forget whether advice be among the lost things which Ariosto says arc to be found in the moon: that and time ought to have been there.—Swift.

Advice is seldom welcome. Those who need it most like it least.—Johnson.

He who calls in the aid of an equal understanding doubles his own ; and he who profits by a superior understanding raises his powers to a level with the height of the superior understanding he unites with.—Burke.

Harsh counsels have no effect; they are like hammers which are always repulsed by the anvil.—Helvetius.

In order to convince it is necessary to speak with spirit and wit; to advise, it must come from the heart.—DAguesseau.

Every man, however wise, requires the advice of some sagacious friend in the affairs of life.—Plautus.

It would truly be a fine thing if men suffered themselves to be guided by reason, that they should acquiesce in the true remonstrances addressed to them by the writings of the learned and the advice of friends. But the greater part are so disposed that the words which enter by one ear do incontinently go out of the other, and begin again by following the custom. The best teacher one can have is necessity.—Francois la None.

Even the ablest pilots are willing to receive advice from passengers in tempestuous weather.'-Cicero.

We give advice by the bucket, but take it by the grain— W. R. Alger.

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